Parents who divorce often fear their actions will negatively affect their children. Many parents fear a divorce will cause their children permanent psychological issues like depression, PTSD or anxiety.
Your child isn’t guaranteed to experience any harmful effects from divorce – you may find your child benefits greatly from your divorce. Here’s what you should consider:
1. More time one-on-one time
Parents in failed marriages often have trouble spending time with their children when their toxic spouse gets in the way. Divorce may be able to establish your bond with your children. You may have more say in what you do with your children and where you can go after divorce – like going to an amusement park or having a movie night.
2. Your kids experience less arguing
Toxic marriages are often full of arguing and disagreement, which could give your children the wrong impression of how relationships work. Arguments in a marriage don’t often reflect how strong communication works. Divorce may open up your children’s perspective on what makes a healthy relationship and give them a chance to communicate more.
3. Your kids build better boundaries
It can be hard to establish boundaries when you have a spouse who wants to control everything in a marriage, including how your children are raised. This may cause your children to be less willing to make decisions. Divorce may impress on your children that they do have a say about what happens in their life.
If you’re considering divorce, you may need to reach out for legal help to know your opinions.
